uncomfortable conversations

[swingchickie]

uncomfortable conversation #1: my painter and i have been playing phone tag for a few days now, to talk about his final bill. when we'd talked about the design i wanted on my blue wall, he'd told me it would be around $150, then a few minutes later he upped it to $200. but when i got my bill 2 weeks later, he'd charged me $275... i'm assuming because his original technique didn't work and he had to come in for a few extra hours and fix it, and he wants me to cover the cost of his time. which i don't find cool at all. i left him a very pleasant voicemail asking if the $275 was a mistake, and he has not left a message back confirming that it was... so i know this conversation could get nasty. darnit.

uncomfortable conversation #2: i can't believe i forgot to post this, but i had "the talk" with my neighbor. i told her very nicely that she was a big enough help with my lawn (i pay her for that), and that she didn't have to worry about anything else (yes, she was the one who'd taken out my trash). the next night, she came over with a 6-pack of stella as a "peace offering" (her words), and apologized to me... she said she didn't want me to feel intruded upon, and that the reason she had done so much is that the couple who lived here before me didn't do anything to the house (no surprise there), and they had her do everything. so, she was trying to be a good neighbor and do what she always did, especially because she knew i worked long hours and traveled a lot. so, things have been very quiet and pleasant since.

uncomfortable conversation #3: cargo-shorts boy left me a voicemail last night, wanting to see me again. darnit, now i have to turn him down. he's a nice guy, do i clue him in (gently) to the clothing situation so he doesn't make that mistake with another gal? probably not. hrm.

Comments

[menschenjaeger.livejournal.com]

Uncomfortable Conversation #1, Part II: The Quickening
Read this and be ready. http://www.smartmoney.com/esquire/index.cfm?story=20060804

UC2 - that doesn't sound uncomfortable at all. She actually sounds really nice.

UC3 - buy him a pirate shirt and put him in a cab.

[swingchickie.livejournal.com]

yes, she is nice... just really "take-charge". it was uncomfortable to bring up the subject, but she handled it well and things are good now. :)

Good Luck!

[pinchedpink.livejournal.com]

Sorry about the painter things. I hate it when people say one thing and do another, especially when I'm having to pay them for it. You go get him -- and stick to your guns!

I'm glad the neighbor convo worked out so well. She actually sounds nice! I'm glad you worked that out with her so you can have a good, neighborly relationship.

Well, some guys just don't get it (my hubby for one). If they just clean up for us they have better chances. Oh, well -- hey! Maybe you should write a book - something like the "He's Just Not Into You" junk, only make it about what to do to not seem losery on a first date. You could make MILLIONS :)

~H

Re: Good Luck!

[swingchickie.livejournal.com]

re: the blind date... stay tuned, you'll crack up at a post i'll be doing in a couple of weeks.

[krisdance.livejournal.com]

#1 YIKES

#2 Sounds like it turned out well, so far!

#3 Was there anything else about the blind date that turned you off? Maybe consider seeing him again, at least once more. There are many things that seem to matter when dating that you realize didn't matter as much as you thought they did when you are in a relationship. I'd hate you to miss out on a great guy with a bad wardrobe. Clothes come and go - and can be changed, but a great guy is priceless. He could just be clueless. Were his cargo shorts and T-shirt at least clean? Some guys are just really casual.

[swingchickie.livejournal.com]

if he were an absolute dreamboat and we had enormous sparks, i could *maybe* overlook the outfit (but it would still frustrate me). it's more like, he was a nice guy and i found myself not too crazy about him, with the clothing ensemble being the icing on the cake.

[shanabanana.livejournal.com]

Eh, if you had sparked with him, the cargo shorts would just be a clever story you two told at cocktail parties. If you didn't spark, I doubt the primary reason is his clothing choice.

[mghicks.livejournal.com]

Tell your neighbor there's a nice house on Belvoir whose yard could use her attention, if she needs more work.

[swingchickie.livejournal.com]

hee. speaking of which, i need your e-mail address... there's a housewarming evite with your name on it, just waiting to be sent...