the "out" crowd

[swingchickie]

so, there's a cocktail party going on tomorrow evening, thrown by one of my co-workers... but i wasn't invited. and now i'm in a really awkward position. see, last week i was talking to my friend T (the co-worker who came to the prince concert with me), and she was like, "hey, do you want to carpool to N's party next week?" and of course my response was, "what party?" T insists that i should go, she says that a lot of work people are going and the lack of an invite must have been an oversight on N's part. but i don't know... maybe it's the dorky 14-year-old still stuck inside me, feeling a bit hurt that i wasn't invited, oversight or not... but i just don't think i should be there. first off, i don't think i'd have much fun, knowing i hadn't been invited in the first place... and second, maybe it wasn't an oversight, and there's a reason N didn't invite me... which would mean that if i showed up, it would be really awkward for her. but then again, if i don't go, and it was a mistake, then N's going to be upset with me for choosing not to go.

am i being totally ridiculous? should i get decked out, show up and not care, and keep my cosmo glass full all night? or should i be cautious and just go out dancing with my friends? i just don't want to be somewhere where i wasn't invited. argh.

Comments

[weezerthe1.livejournal.com]

i agree
i wouldn't want to go somewhere i wasn't invited
even tho i may be an oversight
still
i wouldn't be comfortable

go out dancing with your friends. you will prolly have more fun anyway :)

[swingdoc.livejournal.com]

i totally agree. if i weren't invited, i wouldn't go. if i were that close to someone, i'd be able to call him/her up and say "hey, whassup with the shindig" or something like that. if i'm not close enough to do that, i wouldn't show up uninvited. you have a good point - there may be a reason. most likely, it *is* an oversight, of course. and it's the party's loss, fo' sho'.

[steven.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't go. It's probably an oversight by the host, but still ...

Situations like this make me ask myself, "What would be the bigger regret?" In a case like this, I'd say the bigger regret would be attending and then feeling out of place. I'd sooner miss the occasion.

If N mistakenly didn't invite you, she has no justifiable reason to be upset with you for choosing not to go.

Don't you love feeling like it's middle school all over again?