am i missing something?

[swingchickie]

there's a post on The Consumerist today (http://consumerist.com/2010/12/bride-sues-runaway-groom-for-100000.html) about a woman who's suing her former fiancee for leaving her at the altar. she'd shelled out all of their wedding deposits, etc to the tune of $100,000, and he cancelled the wedding just a few days before.

what's shocking is the consumerist community's response to the article -- almost every reply is "he's smart to run like the wind, sounds like she's a b****" or "it's her fault for spending $100K on a wedding, he shouldn't be expected to pay just because he got cold feet." am i missing something???? seriously??? the guy let his fiancee dump $100,000 into a wedding that he was secretly waffling over for a year (according to the article), and he shouldn't be expected to reimburse her for some of that?

(yes, of course i think $100k is insane to spend on a wedding. but that's not the point.)

Comments

[weezerthe1.livejournal.com]

"Blame the victim!"

"She asked for it!"

Yeah it's just another example of overly judgmental people who somehow think that their own personal preferences/opinions give them the right to justify their (and other people's) bad behavior

Whatever happened to the days when a person's word actually meant something and going back on one's promise(s) or not making good on part of a bargain/deal was considered a fault?

*sigh*

[mrlich.livejournal.com]

Just sounds like a lot of trolls (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forum_troll) to me.

Ahhh, the YouTube commenters of the world...

[swingchickie.livejournal.com]

i know, but on consumerist there's at least usually a balance of trolling and reason. this is just 99% "bash the bride". i totally didn't expect it on that kind of forum.

[boutell.livejournal.com]

There's a gigantic iceberg of what was really going on between them that we clearly can't see here. But you can't let someone spend $100,000 on a wedding you are not going to go through with and fail to take any responsibility for the resulting situation.

Given a choice between marrying somebody you don't wanna marry and not marrying somebody you don't wanna marry, however shitty the timing, he did the right thing by not making vows in front of all of his tribe and hers.

I understand how the timing could get crazy. A wedding takes on a life of its own and he clearly had trouble grasping that this was Not Going To Work until he was right up against it. But he should compensate her for some of that $$$. And if he doesn't like it, he can be more introspective before making or accepting a proposal next time.

[boutell.livejournal.com]

(I was going to be snarky about the actual amount of money, but since I don't know the cultural standards of her family, I really don't think it's relevant without more info.)

[dear-amaranth.livejournal.com]

I have a sinking feeling that if the bride were the one who'd run away, people would still be blasting her for it. =/