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infidelity
Oct. 4th, 2004 06:45 amas i've posted on here before, i absolutely hate people who cheat on a spouse or s.o. and i don't even mean just going to bed with someone... i mean being in full-on flirt mode as well. i can understand if someone pays attention to you and you're flattered for a sec, i mean that's human nature. but when you take it past that and into sexual innuendo and all, i have a real problem with that. in fact, there are a couple of people in my life, one friend included, who i have a hard time being around because i've felt they've acted really inappropriately around someone i've been dating.
anyway. a couple of years ago, the ex and i went to the wedding of two very good friends of his. all of his close college friends were there, including a married buddy of his who works in NY as a jazz musician. and this guy's wife was nice, but i just didn't feel comfortable around her, because she had this wierd flirtation thing going on with the ex. through the whole reception, she was teasing and insulting the ex in a really playful way that was totally, blatantly flirtatious. he laughed it off as just "their dynamic", and that they acted like "brother and sister". um, no. she was flirting with him right in front of me, and in front of her own husband, and i didn't like it at all. looking back, i think deep down one of the things that made me uncomfortable, was thinking that she would be a better fit for him than me... that if she weren't married to one of his best friends, i wouldn't even be in the picture.
well, there's an interesting twist now. just recently, the friend in NYC sent the ex an e-mail... telling him that they are divorcing, because she's had several infidelities over the years. she never liked the institution of marriage, and illustrated that by sleeping with other men. not much of a surprise. but as soon as i heard, guess what my first thought was? oh my god, the ex is going to sleep with her. not that it's any of my business, and the idea of him moving on in that way doesn't bother me at all. it's the thought that it might be with HER. ugh. now, he's very loyal to his friends, so there's a possibility that he'll never even talk to this woman again. but if there's a way for him to justify it, a way to make it work, i think at the very least he will sleep with her once. and that makes me sick to my stomach.
but opie and anthony are back on the air now... and that makes me happy. ::grin::
anyway. a couple of years ago, the ex and i went to the wedding of two very good friends of his. all of his close college friends were there, including a married buddy of his who works in NY as a jazz musician. and this guy's wife was nice, but i just didn't feel comfortable around her, because she had this wierd flirtation thing going on with the ex. through the whole reception, she was teasing and insulting the ex in a really playful way that was totally, blatantly flirtatious. he laughed it off as just "their dynamic", and that they acted like "brother and sister". um, no. she was flirting with him right in front of me, and in front of her own husband, and i didn't like it at all. looking back, i think deep down one of the things that made me uncomfortable, was thinking that she would be a better fit for him than me... that if she weren't married to one of his best friends, i wouldn't even be in the picture.
well, there's an interesting twist now. just recently, the friend in NYC sent the ex an e-mail... telling him that they are divorcing, because she's had several infidelities over the years. she never liked the institution of marriage, and illustrated that by sleeping with other men. not much of a surprise. but as soon as i heard, guess what my first thought was? oh my god, the ex is going to sleep with her. not that it's any of my business, and the idea of him moving on in that way doesn't bother me at all. it's the thought that it might be with HER. ugh. now, he's very loyal to his friends, so there's a possibility that he'll never even talk to this woman again. but if there's a way for him to justify it, a way to make it work, i think at the very least he will sleep with her once. and that makes me sick to my stomach.
but opie and anthony are back on the air now... and that makes me happy. ::grin::
