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swingchickie) wrote2004-07-08 11:44 pm
swingchickie) wrote2004-07-08 11:44 pm
flirting.
so, flirting is a very hard thing for me. i know that eventually i'll have to remember how to do it, now that i'm single again... but it's just really hard.
tonight i mentioned my new single status to a guy i know from my swing dances... he made a joke like "ooh, really? tell me more...", but there was an undercurrent of sincerity to it... and i got all awkward and just sort of stammered, and i think it made him really uncomfortable. he didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. *sigh*
i just don't know how to handle attention from a guy. when i've done the blind dating thing, it's been fine, because you already know that you're attracted to one another and that there's dating potential there. so there's no question. but in other situations, i'm just so fuzzy... i'm not the gal you'd focus on in a bar, the 5' tall redhead, when the place is full of 21-year-old blondes... so when i do get attention from a guy, i never know if i'm reading too much into it, or if it's legitimate... so i just bristle. case in point: the schoolgirl way i acted the last few weeks around the "flirty boy" from dancing... i got a little bit of attention from him, which he gives to EVERYONE, and i went all giddy and then felt like an ass later. so now i feel burnt, and i don't want to assume that anyone's truly interested in me. lol
ah, the single life. you gotta love it.
tonight i mentioned my new single status to a guy i know from my swing dances... he made a joke like "ooh, really? tell me more...", but there was an undercurrent of sincerity to it... and i got all awkward and just sort of stammered, and i think it made him really uncomfortable. he didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. *sigh*
i just don't know how to handle attention from a guy. when i've done the blind dating thing, it's been fine, because you already know that you're attracted to one another and that there's dating potential there. so there's no question. but in other situations, i'm just so fuzzy... i'm not the gal you'd focus on in a bar, the 5' tall redhead, when the place is full of 21-year-old blondes... so when i do get attention from a guy, i never know if i'm reading too much into it, or if it's legitimate... so i just bristle. case in point: the schoolgirl way i acted the last few weeks around the "flirty boy" from dancing... i got a little bit of attention from him, which he gives to EVERYONE, and i went all giddy and then felt like an ass later. so now i feel burnt, and i don't want to assume that anyone's truly interested in me. lol
ah, the single life. you gotta love it.
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Have I mentioned how quickly a redhead catches my eye? Seriously.
Ah, the single life, indeed. I've been singularly single for much too long.
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but seriously, it's just the experience i've had... a greater proportion of men in a bar seem to be attracted to the tall, blonde, etc. women in the room. now i will say that i'm not in bars all too often... maybe i go to the wrong ones... i'm only in one of there's a band or dancing or something... otherwise i hate standing around in a room full of people who are wasted.
hey, THAT'S it!!! i need to be drunk first! why didn't i think of that? (ick.)
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It's funny, the experiences you have had somewhat mirror my own. I have, in the past, griped a little about how the ladies [not "all", I'm careful not to fall into the sweeping generalizations either...] seem to target the tall guys.
Yes, at 5'6", I realize I'm taller than you are, but the height that seems to get noticed more often than not, is 5'10"-ish, or more. No matter what the height of the lady in question. This confuses, and frustrates, me.
Anyway, I am happy to report that I am not one of the men attracted to the tall and blonde set. That's not to say that I would refuse the attentions of one, should she, in her delusional state, decide to persue me! LOL [yeah, like that's gonna happen! :P]